I am aware that I am not the first to write about love... I am not the most eloquent nor the least experienced - it's on my mind at the moment... so here it is.
I am in love with my partner. In a big, full-bodied, connected-on-lots-of-levels kind of way. Aaaaaand we are also two human beings with different ways of seeing and thinking and communicating sharing a space and a life together. Reality.
So, where do you draw the line in the unconditional / conditional love Likert scale?
I know a couple who have been together 12 years. Happily. I asked them what they thought was the key to loving / co-habiting / growing with another person... and I asked them because they weren't self-help / workshop / therapy people (not that there's anything wrong that - am one myself) - I asked them because they were living it.
Here's the gold: they both said "Loving each other exactly as they are - not trying to change the other... at all."
I said "Really? Not even a little bit?".... apparently not even a little bit.
Simple.
